Marriage Monday

Yesterday, our Sunday School teacher *my hubby* asked us what our first date together was. Everyone in our class is married as we are studying Song of Songs. Good memories.

I love weddings. I love marriage. A friend and I were talking about weddings and marriage and all things love recently. I made the comment, 'a wedding a marriage does not make'. Don't get me wrong. I love weddings. They are the vehicle used to make vows, holy before the Lord.

Today young ladies spend huge amounts of money on wedding dresses ($6,000 ~ really?), flowers, receptions and shoes. We girls spend hours and hours shopping, planning and making decisions. For one day. ONE DAY.

When young couples call to ask my hubby to marry them he kindly tells them his fee. His fee is not in dollars but in time. 10 weeks of pre-marital

counseling. Between 90 minutes and 2 hours a week for 10 weeks. Good stuff! Believe it or not some say "Oh, we don't have the time". What? Tons of time to plan the wedding yet not so much time to plan a life together. So many people today think if they plan the perfect wedding, the perfect ceremony, the perfect reception, they will have a perfect marriage. Not so.

As most of you know, marriage is so much more than the perfect wedding. Most of us don't remember much of it. I remember very little. Or we have a tale or two to tell of things gone wrong. My little brother (ring-bearer) played with the turn style on the recorder my Pastor was taping our wedding for us as a gift. On the tape you can hear Pastor DeVries say "No Kurt ~ leave it alone". (Kurt was 5) At my sisters wedding the brother of the groom fainted dead away during the vows. (He was hot) .

All this to say. Wise is the young lady that plans, yes, for THE DAY, though not just for the ONE DAY. Plan for a godly marriage. Plan for being a faithful wife. Plan by learning to cook. Plan by knowing how to make and maintain a budget. Plan by learning how to do laundry. Learn how to clean. Learn how to grocery shop wisely. Plan by learning what your man likes. Plan by spending time with the lover of your soul, who ultimately will make your marriage GREAT! You see, marriages made in heaven look to heaven for the wisdom of a GREAT marriage.

I still like Sunday School ~

I love being married too~

Yet, Love HE who is faithful, lover of my soul, most of all,

Lynette